Seen, Valued, Heard

How do we actually see other people? How do we hold or assign a value to others? And when do we decide to listen?

Robert taught me to really put my actions where my mouth is.

The story of Robert is one I often share with audiences because it specifically illustrates how we’re all hungry for connection. For acceptance, for belonging. We crave being seen, valued and sincerely heard.

We met on a sidewalk in Florida, he initiated a conversation, I engaged.

He reached out, very specifically with something he asked of me. Something simple and easy. I was struck dumb by the simple and deeply human request he asked of me.

I faltered.

The whole story deserves its due. For now I’ll simply share that I didn’t fully extend human connection to him. He was asking for something simple. And I was literally stunned silent.

The opportunity to connect was squandered, by me – not him.

I mumbled something and wished him a good night and moved on.

Like Dan Pink’s book The Power of Regret teaches, I’ll use that moment – that regret – to fuel me forward to never make that same choice again.

See people. Value them. Hear them.

If you have an audience and would like to hear the entire story + the lessons we can all benefit from, I offer Keynote Speaking and Connecting Experiences, including the signature At The Table Dinner Party. Contact me here.

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