If you think connecting has to be complicated, think again.
At its essence, connecting with another human is simple. It’s about seeing someone for the basic being they are: another human much like you. Being objective and suspending judgment about them. Being willing to simply and completely let them BE, just as you want to be simply and completely BE.
As I teach in the Connectivity Canon, there’s always a First Move.
The First Move in making and nurturing the simplicity of connection is to feel connected with yourself. No degree is needed to know this. We all deeply crave the feeling of connection, otherwise known as Belonging.
- First, take a l o n g pause. Literally stop any motion you’re making. Pause, fully.
- Sit or stand or lay with yourself.
- Breathe calmly. Through your nose as much as possible.
- Clear your mind of busyness and chatter.
- Be totally undistracted.
This practice alone – beginning self-connecting – is valuable in calming and centering.
“Wait a minute Ginger, is this all mumbo jumbo – are you giving me a therapy session – are we into meditation?” Maybe on the meditation. Nope on the mumbo jumbo and therapy. There are pros for those.
Self-connection is uncomplicated. It’s simple because when you focus on you alone – not others, not your thoughts – then you can simplify your own feelings of connection with yourself.
Be basic in your pursuit of connecting with yourself.
My friend Olivier wrote the words above, and he’s spot on. Basic = simple = uncomplicated.
Be kind to yourself in starting and strengthening this practice. Uncomplicate it. You don’t need a fancy candle or curtains. You don’t need pillows or an absolutely silent place. All you need is the desire to practice and to practice.
It’s about practice, not perfection (ever).
I can tell you from personal experience this will help you remember that you are helping yourself be the person you wish to be. Even if you’re inconsistent. If you’re doing this more than you’re not doing this, you’re successful.
Just as you read above, self-connecting is about seeing someone – YOU in this case – for the basic being you are: a human much like others. Being objective and suspending judgment about yourself, as you desire from others. Being willing to simply and completely YOU BE YOU, just as they want to BE simply and completely themselves.
Connecting is simple. Be diligent with simplicity and keeping your practice uncomplicated.
Start with yourself, your own practice. Once you feel like you have enough momentum in self-practice, then expand and extend to and with others.
Let me know how you’re progressing – you’ve got me cheering you on.
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